well....
tried to sleep but failed...
i just cant seem to fall asleep... too many things to worry about.. sigh...
so before i really start on my work decided to blog some stuff hehe...
what do you do when a relationship turns sour?
when the significant other says its over?
what do you do when it happens so unexpectedly?
when you ask for an explanation a stupid reason is given (well tats my opinion) what do you do then?
That was what i found out today... well not the answers... found out that my friend just broke up... a five year relationship down the drain... and the reason given was because there was no more chemistry... well that was according to the guy...
hmm...
is relationship all about chemistry then?
Well i do agree when you start a relationship there must be some chemistry but then no relationship is ever easy. It takes effort.
It depends how you define that relationship and why you are in it in the first place.
I guess i felt it was more to it then just chemistry.
I gather there's some ego involved. Typical of guys.
chemistry...
hmm..
but if it all lies on chemistry wouldnt that be just lust instead of love?
But then how you define what is love? Is love strong enough to actually sustain the relationship?
i donno.. u tell me...
But then it takes two hands to clap. A sentence so simple but blind to people who are in the situation. One would always blame the other and vice versa....
Came up with a conclusion cause this is not the first time i see this happening...
guys basically dont like to be forced to feel something or do something... they wanna do it on their own time, when they are ready...
Let me know if i'm wrong cause i'm saying it as it is. I've seen two such relationships turn sour because of this and its always the guy who ask for the break up.
Well if i were the guy i guess i would feel suffocated too but then is it fair to the girl cause its just the way the person is? Or could it be paranoia at its best?
i donno
but in the end someone will always get hurt.
It may be easy for some people to throw their relationship in the wind just like that, but to a person who really treasure the relationship and have feelings involved, it hurts, it hurts a damn lot... losing someone is never easy, especially when feelings are involved. Is it fair to that person to be given a lame reason and not the truth? To be pushed aside, ignored, ridiculed and left alone in the rain without knowing what really happened?
note that i'm not taking any sides, this happens to guys too... i know...
maybe because i've observed alot of relationships, good or bad, and help my friends go thru those rough patches that i'm not in one myself. Afraid that i'd make the same mistakes. Afraid that i'll get hurt. Afraid that i'll hurt the other. People who really know me would know that i dont take relationships lightly. When i'm committed to something i put my heart into it, that's why i get hurt easily... thus i dont fall in love easily and when i do, i fall hard but me being me wont do anything about it cause of fear... but like someone once said, love shouldnt be a secret, when you keep it inside it'll make you sick.. haha.. how true... but then you dont know how stubborn i can be =P
You know sometimes i wonder what kind of person i would turn out to be if i was ever in a failed relationship... When something so beautiful turns sour, i guess i can understand how painful it must be, but one has to move on, but then again its easier said then done. Yes stuff like this takes time but it aint good to dwell on it cause what do you get out of it in the end? Are you gonna continue to let your tears flow and beat yourself up on what has passed, hurt yourself in the process while the other person is living their life as they deem fit, enjoying themselves?
I guess sometimes god wants us to meet a few wrong people before we meet the right one... what do you think? We all can plan a few years ahead, plan what we wanna do, what we want, but in the end it is god who determines our fate. He has the last say. But then we have the power to make our own choices. Right or wrong, it is our choice to make. It does sound contradicting doesnt it? but think about it...
Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, and the romance in a relationship, and find out you still care for that person.
