Wednesday, August 24, 2005

Somehow it bugs me that some freshmen still thinks that all juniors and seniors have something against them
communication barrier? the juniors and seniors not extending friendship etc?

but hey it takes two hands to clap.
I'm not blaming either sides but cant everything start back on a clean slate?
We are afterall a small cohort and need each other one way or the other.

Funny how one little incident can cause a rather large aftereffect....

Peceptions and first impressions are not always correct
Isnt it wrong to make up one's mind on a person or a group of people without really getting to know them first?

Effort makes a very big difference....

I'm trying but can one voice help make a difference?

Anyways
i was thinking lately
about love, relationships and everything that goes along with it
why think of such things?
cause well i've been observing things going around me and somehow the topic of discussion lately revolves around it.

I know i'm not wrong to say this but
Every girl secretly dreams of a whirlwind romance, fairy tale endings and all the extra shindigs that goes along with it. Movies that shows happy ever after, passion and romance between the lead hero and heroine, heck who wouldnt want it to happen to them?

Daydreaming of that day or fantasizing how your current relationship can be like that....
but realistically in the real world, love aint like that.

Life isnt handed to you in a nice gift wrapped parcel with a lovely bow on top. It doesnt work that way. Nothing is ever perfect. To expect sometimes the impossible from a partner sometimes is just plain stupid.

I'm not saying love is not beautiful, in fact it is, but only when you accept your partner as who he/she is instead of comparing your love to a movie show or comparing your partners to your ideal man/women. And also not picking on every single fault or irritating habits they might have.

Not only is love about trust, patience and compromise. It is also about communication and going the extra mile.

Without communication, constant miscommunication will happen which most often then not lead to quarrels on who's right and who's wrong.

And sometimes just because you finally have each other perhaps after a year of courtship or having a crush on that person you think thats the end.
I've seen relationships break because parties think they are safe and that they do not need to do anything extra and just ride on the relationship wave, or that they are too busy for anything else, even for their own partners and they think its alright cause they assume that their partners will always be there. Some relationships even break because couples get bored with each other cause there's nothing there to spice up the relationship cause they think their love for each other is enough and they are waiting for each other to do something.

Like i mentioned previously, effort makes a big difference.
Sometimes its not the big things you do, but the little things that sometimes do make that difference.

Even so it doesnt help if one party is demanding. May it be emotionally or materialistically.

You want someone to understand you, to be there for you when you're down and out, and when your partner is not there for you, you feel betrayed, that he/she doesnt understand you and you need constant reminders that he/she loves you because of your insecurity.

Sounds familiar to you?

The thing is, here is where communication comes in. If you dont communicate how in the world do you expect your partner to understand you.
No one is born a mind reader. Sure there are people who can read emotions, feel empathy but we are human afterall.

So think about it. Have you been unfair to your partner? Expecting something that is unrealistic? Angry with them for something that is not totally their fault?

What's your move now?
Ignore it? or try and make it better?

It takes two hands to clap and sometimes someone has to take the initiative first.

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8/24/2005 04:32:00 PM
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.The Writer.

I love standing in the rain, letting the feel of raindrops caress feverish skin, letting it wash away my thoughts, worries and pain. I love the feel of sand between my toes, the cool wind whispering in my ear, the soothing sound of the sea, the warmth of a hug. I love anything vintage, historical, mysterious and magical. I like to laugh, I like freedom and happiness, I like the idea of romance, being swept off my feet and happy endings. I currently have no idea where i'm going but i know i'll get where i'm suppose to be in due time. I want things i cant have, I dream of things that can never be but i'm too afraid to leave the things i'm familiar with even when i know i'm adaptable to change. I can be the person you love or hate, like or loath, admire or envy. I am not perfect,
I am just me.