Thursday, July 06, 2006

A talk with a friend a few days ago reminded me on how i do not want to be involved in a relationship even if those lonely pangs gets irritating. The bottom line is that what's the point? Why go through all the heartaches, pain, doubt, insecurities (which ever applies), torment yourself and then end up broken hearted. Doesnt even matter if you've been in the relationship for a couple hundred of years.

Sure i know there are those moments of sweetness and comfort you feel in a relationship and i know that all that i've mentioned above is very cynical of me. But sometimes a girl has to think of these things to prevent herself from getting hurt ya' know. To tell you the truth, i actually believe in happy endings, true love and all that jazz. Which is why i enjoy romance movies and novels, even tho some of em' makes me feel like puking when i know its so damn far fetched that it wont happen in real life. But somehow its kind of like a form of escape from reality. Makes me forget about all the ugliness for a bit.

So when friends actually come up to me and tell me about their relationship problems and ask me what are they suppose to do, heck i can only give the most positive opinion i can and give that person hope but i'll put a disclaimer beforehand because i for one aint the best person to ask bout' relationship advice only cause mainly, i aint never been in a relationship before but i'll give that listening ear and a shoulder to cry on anytime.

When a person is in doubt with their relationship my advice usually will be based on trust because i believe in trust, but trust has to be earned and not be given lightly, which is why one of my questions usually would be, has your significant other given you any doubts or have done anything to not make you trust him/her? And if the answer is no, then have faith in him/her. But as positively i want to think about the situation and the lil bit of hope i want to give to my friend, at the end of the day when i'm lying in bed at night, things like these are constant reminders why i should be happy being single.

Just look a the divorce rates in Singapore. When i was still at the firm, day in day out i see clients who are going through a divorce with haunted looks on their faces. Battles of custody and matrimonial property. How does two person who had once loved each other so much and promised to love and cherish each other through sickness & in health and till death do them part end up broken? Are vows and promises no longer sacred in this modern world? If it is then what's the point of marriage when it somehow seems to me like just another contract between two people and when they are tired with it, tired of each other, tired of the life they had chosen to make for themselves, they can easily break the contract as if it was nothing?

But then just because you have a problem with your marriage do you run away? find the easiest way out? stray because you feel that you lack something in that relationship? Doesnt a relationship/marriage take work and effort? Unless you live in a fairy tale that is. So when all the problems happening, especially if that marriage involves a child, is the child well being taken into account? Sometimes adults tend to forget and focus only on the problems concerning each other. How they make each other unhappy, how could the person betray his/her trust and stray.. etcetc But do they stop to think how their child will feel in the midst of all those problems? The quarrels, the custody battle, etc...

However i would understand in some cases where an abusive spouse is involved. Then that you should run as far away as possible with the children (if applicable).

So all in all i have no idea what's point of this entry cause i'm drained out and somehow amidst all these criticism and thoughts i would still like to believe that true love still exists and that marriage is more then just a contract between two people.

On another note, France made it to the finals!
So long Portugal its been fun =) gg
i cant believe i'm going to say this but did you hear the sweet sounding of 'boos' at cristiano ronaldo whenever he had the possession of the ball? wahahhaha.. i'm sorry naz, i know you love him aside from iz that is, but i was grinning whenever it happened during the match. Ouh and the agony on his face when his team lost. ishishishish.. lolx

aite then i better get moving if i wanna get some things done in the to-do list in my head.

ciao =)

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.The Writer.

I love standing in the rain, letting the feel of raindrops caress feverish skin, letting it wash away my thoughts, worries and pain. I love the feel of sand between my toes, the cool wind whispering in my ear, the soothing sound of the sea, the warmth of a hug. I love anything vintage, historical, mysterious and magical. I like to laugh, I like freedom and happiness, I like the idea of romance, being swept off my feet and happy endings. I currently have no idea where i'm going but i know i'll get where i'm suppose to be in due time. I want things i cant have, I dream of things that can never be but i'm too afraid to leave the things i'm familiar with even when i know i'm adaptable to change. I can be the person you love or hate, like or loath, admire or envy. I am not perfect,
I am just me.